Overcoming stage fright
I’m a firm believer in the power of knowledge. The more you learn about any given subject, the more you come to an understanding of the processes at play and the more confident you feel about the way you want to use that knowledge.
Stage fright is the same. The more you know about it - where it comes from, what your inner dialogue is when you feel it, in what situations it is stronger or weaker - the more you understand the processes at play whenever you feel afraid to share your voice.
Learning about stage fright in order to understand it, gives you back your power.
It gives you back agency.
Communication expert Sonya Hamlin writes in her book “How to talk so people listen”:
“Stage fright is based on a myth: Somewhere in the world there’s a speaker who could deliver your speech with a perfect''10”, thinking about how far below that “10” you’ll fall. This gives birth to an enormous case of anxiety!”
For where it comes from, she gives 3 sources:
“Early imprinting: what your family criticized in you plus your siblings’ skills
Adolescence: the real killer of self-confidence; the origin of our “unacceptable” message as we measure our potential against our peers. And find ourselves wanting…
Perfectionism: our unrealistic demands on ourselves and our mistaken notions about others’ competence and talent”
I challenge you this week to set some time aside to really look at what is happening when you feel nervous in front of an audience.
Answer the following questions:
Am I comparing myself to the “perfect 10”? What would “perfect 10” public speaking look like and how am I sabotaging myself by comparing myself to this fictitious standard?
What are my memories about speaking up? In my family, in school, with friends, at work?
How am I letting my unrealistic demands on myself keep me in this cycle not showing up?
I really invite you to have a conversation with yourself this week. Learn to understand your feelings, shed light on has been there in the dark. There is power in knowing and understanding yourself. Power that puts you back in the driver’s seat of your actions... and of your voice.
Remember: your voice is your gift, and the key to your most authentic and sensational self. Don't let fear hold you back ✨
With lots of positive vibes 🌈
PS: If you could use some support in overcoming stage fright, schedule a free call with me.
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